“Will I be as brave as Jack in the Pirates of the Caribbean? Will it save the world like Altman?” The daughter sent such a question, and then, and distressed to say: “they are men, I am just a girl, why is the captain of the non male?”
The daughter is not only unfair, but also feel the sigh of this. In her little head and wondering why the hero is always a man? Why do women heroes so little? At this time, grandma will break her ideas: the girls should be like the girls, the boys are doing, as long as the girl holding the sub line.
The duty? How familiar words ah, only a short while ago formed a popular at a time, what is the girl’s duty? It is to hold that the so-called gentle as an understanding wife and loving mother, skilled, the rest is not permitted for offbeat, social.
However, with the advent of the era of the only child, the promotion of women’s rights to make a girl’s character has changed, but this does not mean that the future of your daughter is not a good housewife. Just think: a good housewife is a good measure of the important standard of girls do? To my observation: the silly girl is sometimes happy, but know how to control their own advantage of the girls have always been scenery! Of course, to ordinary or scenery, only their own. Like a turtle to live longer, if all day lying on the seabed, the live ten thousand years and what is it? Advantage education is the fundamental reason why the girl can not live, play their own advantages to live?
Looked at her daughter’s face, I said: “some of the work for men, some work for women, as the captain of this work long drifting in the sea, not only to endure loneliness, but also need a certain physical. The man is so strong that most of the men are men. However, there is a female captain now, because the technology in the development, the ship is no longer so much manual work, but also need to work, so the captain appeared. Let’s look at the plane. Is there a lot of women in the plane? Just like the captain of a military parade. This shows that girls in the technology is not a bit better than men, there are men and women who have a hero, which depends on you do not want to do well, how to do good. This will require you to take advantage of girls ”
What advantage does the girl have? The girl in the communication and coordination capacity than boys a big advantage, research shows that women left than men developed left brain, left brain controls language and abstract thinking ability, so the female imagination and language skills than the congenital male, show that women should obviously than men in social communication ability. Although not in the power of women and men to compete, but in the future society, communication and the ability of thinking need more things to deal with it, which will undoubtedly make women better play to advantage.
As a mother, you want to tell your daughter’s own advantages, strengthen the training of the left and right brain development, but not to give her a way of thinking, the woman is the weak. This impression made it will affect the development of her character, she ignored the weak advantage, a problem not to think how to solve, but then, or is a relatively strong dependence, in the course of time is to develop the personality of lady, but was buried. This is why some women destined to be buried in the hearth, some women have become a princess like cinderella.
There are many have just entered junior high school girls have wondered why I become more stupid? Is not really what people say, just a girl in the primary school period performance than boys after good, true to the junior high school than boys?
A problem encountered this problem when I have just entered junior high school, in most of the girls have just entered junior high school, many subjects suppressed, learn a bit difficult, this is actually a very natural phenomenon. Don’t be known as “older boys than girls IQ is high IQ” fallacy by misleading, there is no evidence to show that girls IQ is poor than boys, but boys than girls in the rational thinking on a little better, so there are some girls become tired of the science of mathematics physics and chemistry class but, this does not mean that your IQ is a problem, but the problem of the cultivation of interest. To cultivate their own interests, not to go to the Department, the Department will only make your knowledge is narrow.
At this time she needs to be as a mother of your reasonable guidance, to dispel her on the rumors of the boys IQ high error awareness, establish good enough confidence to deal with the new discipline, the new semester, slowly let her into normal learning orbit. Then I also listened to the mother’s encouragement to dispel the doubts, to make the learning achievement more and more good, a lot of boys do not solve the problem of mathematical physics, I still take it easy.
At that moment, I was thinking: who said that girls are worse than boys? As long as you try, what time will you have the advantage, if only not aggressive, genius will become a fool!
How to cultivate a girl’s good habits
Train girls to correctly evaluate their good habits, parents should let the children feel at any time, I am not stupid, I really do!
The harsh criticism has stopped the girl’s strength, she only has the shortcoming, where is also the confidence to get up? Where can I evaluate myself and know myself?
The girl who thinks he is a talented woman, she is likely to become a prodigy. On the contrary, if she thinks she is stupid, she really will be more and more stupid. Investigate its reason, is the psychological suggestion in play, the problem is to be afraid of, the more afraid of the more easily wrong, wrong to feel more stupid, which will form a vicious cycle, the growth of girls is very bad.
In real life, many parents do not pay attention to their own girls can not correctly evaluate their own details, they tend to think that is not important. But in fact, this is not correct for their own understanding of the girl can not play their own talent, the lack of confidence in the state of the state of death, the result of waste of their talents. They had to use half the time to have a double effect of learning, but it has been a setback to break the wings of flying, which is really a pity.
In fact, a lot of talented girls in life are in the criticism of their parents’ rude encounter, and many parents do not know the reason for the loss of her daughter. The harsh criticism stopped the girl’s strength, and she had only a weakness. In this regard, the experts put forward the following suggestions for parents:
Advice for parents: tell a girl, others see you look, you will see yourself round.
When the teacher gives you the girl brought a setback, you can put this sentence as a motto, hang on the girl’s wall, encourage her to correct evaluation of their own. This can bring the power to her learning, while preventing her because of the teacher’s criticism, then become.
Give your parents advice two: shout out your girl.
When a girl is afraid to make a little progress, you should praise her loudly. Your praise will make the girl continue to work hard, continue to achieve greater success, the praise of your greatest reward. They also have a positive and optimistic understanding and evaluation of their own.
Give parents advice three: you are not a genius, who is a genius.
List the characteristics of genius, once the girl’s behavior in line with a standard, take to her, tell her, she is a genius, strengthen her self-confidence. This approach has helped deaf children admitted to the University, the girl can also apply to your.
Give your parents advice four: “tell you a good news!”
Every day the girl comes home from school, the first sentence should be “tell you a good news”. This optimistic attitude, the girl is not in a good mood swept away, let the girl’s spirits. The good news is that no matter how very little optimism, parents can become the greatest comfort girl.
To the parents of the five: “daughter, I’m proud of you!”
Want to often say to the girl “I am proud of you”, the girl gets results, for her efforts and pride, the girl met setbacks, for her to bear the fight to continue to work hard and proud. The pride of parents is the girl’s greatest power.
Give parents the advice six: the future of the advantages for the girl’s applause.
When the girl set their own goals, parents should take the girl’s goal as a future advantage, every time the girl from the advantage of the step, parents should give her loud cheers. Even if your girl Nothing is right., as long as she is willing to work hard, you should cheer.
How to concentrate on learning
Sometimes, our brains are always confused by the confusing things. In the age of the students, these strange thoughts become more and more intense when the exams come. The more you want to learn, the more you can’t concentrate. But for a long time, it will affect the learning efficiency and learning performance.
There are several reasons why you can’t concentrate on learning:
Learning objective is not clear enough
Learning content is too difficult, learning burden is too heavy, the psychological pressure is too large
The learning content is too easy, you have learned by heart, because of repeated learning tired
Excessive fatigue, the brain has not been fully rest
Regardless of what causes the study when the attention is not focused, as long as you try the following approach, it should be how much will have some effect”:
Zaoshuizaoqi, self decompression
Try to use the day to study, improve the learning efficiency per unit time, not greedy black night, tired muddled and all day can not afford to fight spirit. At the same time, do not look at the test results too much, a hard, a harvest, I believe that as long as they work hard, there will be a good return. In this way, the study can be relaxed and happy, the attention is easy to concentrate.
Clear objectives, with good method
From the big side, we have to realize that today’s efforts to learn is to create a bright tomorrow, to become a useful person to the family. From an early age to say, this year, this semester or even this day, I should be completed what learning tasks. The goal is clear, the study of the driving force is enough, attention is not easy to disperse. It is true that we should pay attention to the use of some of the better ways to train ourselves to focus and improve our learning efficiency:
Relaxation training method. Sit comfortably in a chair or lie on the bed, and convey information to the rest of the body. Start from the left foot, so that the leg muscles taut, and then relax, while suggesting that it rest, and then, from the right foot to the trunk, and then relax from the left and right to the trunk. At this time, then from the trunk to the neck, head, face all relax. Just a few minutes, you will be able to enter a relaxed, peaceful state.
Difficult to moderate law. For those who have already been able to solve the problem not to go over and over again and again to the calculation, to find some of the classic problems to conquer. For the difficulty of the problem, first independent thinking, and then turn to the teachers, students or parents. For not interested in difficulty is relatively large, their first set a good plan, limited time to learn, not lax. Take a “hill” in the study, give yourself a reward, so that the sense of achievement to motivate themselves, so as to focus.
Sense and usage. To mobilize a variety of motor organs to coordinate activities in the cerebral cortex to form a strong center of excitement. Such as the ear to listen to the tape, read the words in the mouth, eyes to see the textbooks, hand on the paper to write the words. So, attention is when not “deserter”.
Exclusion method. First, in the absence of any interference in the case of a period of time to recite a paragraph of 200-400 words to see how much time, and then in the side of the article to back this article, to see how long it takes, until the same time in the two environments.
Cultivate children’s right learning habits and methods
Famous writer and educator Ye Shengtao said: “education is to develop good habits.” Good habits can make a person to benefit from a lifetime, good learning habits can let a girl get good grades. Poor performance of the girls, the parents more than the child’s talent is not high or not enough effort, in fact, in addition to these two aspects, that is, learning habits, learning methods have problems.
Learning a mother’s very concerned about the child’s learning method, talking about the girl she said: “teacher said the boy is quite clever and say things can learn, there is a little naughty son, there is to do homework careless too seriously enough. Her primary school performance is very stable, to the junior high school when HERSHEY’S bad. Every day she went home to do the homework quickly, I told her that she had a careless mistake, so that the teacher urged her to do a serious point, finish at least check again. She can do it, but three days later I found she returned to their previous appearance, finish homework carelessly and have no patience examined. I simply stared at her every day, has been going on for two weeks, she has developed a serious habit. After a quiz, after she came back from school to me said, ‘Mom, I am last assignment, I actually checked out of the 4 because of careless wrong problem, I used is the class first assignment, now my goal is not the fastest is 100 points!’ That time, my daughter was admitted to 100 points.”
The lack of correct learning methods learning cannot efficient, good habits is not only related to the girl in front of achievement, more relationship to the long-term development of the child. Even if the girl’s performance is good, parents should also learn to deal with their learning habits, learning methods to achieve understanding and attention, such as unreasonable place, or with the teacher, or consulting education experts, to help children correct.
How to create and protect the child’s curiosity
Famous American popular science writer Amor J thought: science begins with curiosity. This world famous physicist Dr. Li Zhengdao also said: to engage in scientific research, we can not do without the curiosity, only curious to put forward the problem, analysis of the problem, to solve the problem. Numerous examples have been record card, curiosity is the child in the course of development of a sum of intangible property, it is the child might be invisible free flying henchmen. As parents, we should do our best to protect the child’s curiosity, the children do not break off this pair of wings.
So, how should we create and protect the child’s curiosity?
First of all, parents should give their children to create a new, interesting space for development. Children’s curiosity is strong, but it is not to say that the child at any time, to any thing all reflect a violent curiosity, only those new and interesting tool to arouse their interest. Children in early childhood, parents should learn in the child’s room or a small bed to put some color beautiful pictures and can make sounds of toys, promote children to explore the physiological growth. Children to about two years old, parents can tell their children stories, do some small hand, small to carry out the child’s curiosity. Children can reading literacy of the age, parents can be properly the child characteristics of copies of the original cause the child’s curiosity. Children are encouraged to register into the to explore the knowledge of the infinite secrets.
Second, treat the child’s “why”. Many parents invented their children cannot raise the question: “river why are winding? Why call buy tools rather than buy a north-south?” is not excessive to the adult, deaf ears, some of the topics very “silly”, incident originally such, why not, like the original satire questions “why Apple only to lose the Newton, disdain surprise in transpiration pot of hot water to the w as. There is no stupid question, but a stupid question. So, facing the child’s question, how should we answer his question, the question to the child, parents should reflect the strong interest, must not be silent. At the same time, parents in the child to answer the question to have enlighten, to carefully guide the child, the child’s curiosity turned to be good at analysis and positive thinking to come up, and cannot understand the problem, parents do not have to reluctantly that can tell him: these things, you will read the book much more, understand the principle, will be able to understand. In order to encourage children to learn knowledge further.
Once again, the accurate view of the child’s curiosity and lead to the crushing action. “Crushing” the intention is to break the shackles, breaking the limit. There is a break, will have a stand. Breaking is the condition and foundation of creation and invention, which is necessary to break the courage, confidence and circumstance that can be broken. As a pass parents, encountered the same situation, restraint is not the best approach them, oh scold them, we can under the proper guidance and protection conditions and appreciate them, encourage them, treat, and support children of certain “crush” action, make them in the “crushing” and “informal” learn thinking, to explore, to create, let their creativity greater play, let their thirst for knowledge, curiosity and innovative mind to get more exercise and training. Shelter this confidence, curiosity and courage, the courage to explore energy. We may have lost some of the spoils, but ultimate accomplishments is a wisdom of creative children, one can probably to create the child in the future. Is this not the search for all the parents?
Finally, the curiosity of the child to the big natural. Natural to change the situation and mysteries the many splendours of the incomparable attracts curious children, parents should often bring the child to devote himself to natural, let the children visited the spring in all sorts of Cordyceps flower change; in the summer night, to the edges of fields, chasing fireflies fluorescence; in late autumn, in the vast wilderness stop, let the children to feel some harvest happy; in winter, Luoying colorful, patches of snow, let the children in exploring the secrets of nature has been the purification of the soul… No doubt, this is all the cause of the child’s curiosity, to guide the child the more hot love and natural love of science good practice.