Parents how to care and education of adolescent girls

First, do not ignore the construction of a good parent-child relationship, so that her daughter to get the warmth of family. From the point of view in many cases, parents are because of the neglect of the daughter enter adolescence emotion completely don’t in childhood, even still treat children parenting style face daughter, it is easy to make parent-child relationship conflict, a long time, girl’s reverse psychology are being strengthened constantly, until the adults and children between each other is not recognized, do not trust, do not accept, feel the child of the family warmth. When the girl from the emotion cannot from the father father, from the mother’s body to lack of maternal love, the heart will be very lonely and depressed, the result is bound to look for outside the family that can meet their emotional needs. Once the emotional transfer to the outside of the family, parents are difficult to control the scope of the action of her daughter, not to mention security, its dangerous consequences are difficult to predict.
The two is not only focused on the academic achievements and said, was concerned about her daughter’s craving. In the exam oriented education today, many parents still excessive emphasis on the score itself, while ignoring the healthy personality and psychological training for her daughter. Once the child is affected by the bad social atmosphere, and the influence of learning useless, will inevitably turn their attention to learning. When they get a temporary psychological comfort from the opposite sex, they will believe that the opposite sex than their parents to her good, will naturally relax vigilance. Once the lack of self protection, in the induction of the opposite sex, a step by step into the abyss of danger. So, adolescent daughter’s parents must draw attention, in addition to take care of the children’s learning, but also concerned about life and emotion of the daughter, make her feel that parents can trust, is deeply in love with her, let the children from their parents get enough psychological sense of security, no empathy from outside the home.
Three is not a strong discipline daughter, but a reasonable education and guidance. Hit and scold, responsibility and punishment, need careful consideration, must not be arbitrary. Otherwise, you will hurt her daughter’s self-esteem, once the girl lost self-esteem, they will break the jar broke, the more parents do not let what they do, they do. As a result, the non – once the discipline is not the purpose, but to further strengthen the contradictions. From the parent-child relationship is very tense family, parents often and let things only, attitude is stiff, the daughter will be opposite to. No matter what the children do something wrong, parents must first learn to care about their daughter’s psychological feelings, so that her daughter feel the parents of their own good. Second, to help her daughter to restore things through, to help them to do a careful analysis, by guiding the children to judge the right and wrong, to improve the child’s cognitive ability. If parents are lack of enough patience, easily by anger the daughter of negative emotions, is likely to make the problem cannot be solved, not to mention the purpose of education and guidance.
Four is to ignore the construction of the family rules, often let girl self-awareness is very strong. Many parents in children’s growth process, most of them neglect the role and power of conventional rules, ferial education alone empty preaching, no by no according to. Sometimes parents say a few words, a few children even sophistry, rational than adults. If parents usually pay attention to the construction of the rules of the family, to their children life work set the rules and meet the educational opportunities, to the rules as the basis, combined with an analysis of the fact that, in general, easy to get the child’s identity. At the same time, we also see, not bound by the rules of the adolescent girls, we often want to more freedom, first at home and outside the home, a long time will persist, in total disregard of the consequences of doing things.
Five is not to ignore the adolescent sex education, so that her daughter to learn to protect their own pure body and mind. With the development of economy, the concept of opening, the diversification of information channels, many girls have become more and more adult behavior after puberty. They always feel that they have grown up, they can be responsible for themselves, but due to the experience of life is very short, very little social experience, in resolution, self-control is very weak. At the same time by the rapid development of physiological development, the girl’s mood changes faster, because the parents and teachers can not move a few words to stimulate the heart can not afford to feel their own innocent and grievances. When the girls want to vent emotions, often find heterosexual boys. Due to heterosexual boys also faced girl’s emotional state of development, coupled with the physiological impact dynamic also in unceasing enhancement, the slightest mistake will be offside special move. Hope that parents usually want to take time to educate her daughter, so that she knows how to protect their body, not easy to play emotions, indulge themselves.
Six is not to use the negative case as someone’s home joke, to be used as a teaching material to use. Every year, there are a lot of adolescent girls out of the case, some even painful, life threatening. Rational parents should be combined with the case to educate and guide the daughter, let the child know, once lost parents protection, relying on their fragile body once regardless of the consequences easily escape from home, like the grassland on the stray lamb, it is easy to fall into the wolf population. When the girls are deeply aware of the community is far from their imagination, there will be a kind of psychological fear, will not easily move away from home. Especially today in the Internet and social platforms is very convenient, parents must be on her daughter’s cell phone and Internet use norms, can not let the optional use. Otherwise, network trap were readily phagocytosed girl.

Girl’s edge

Girl's edge

Girl’s edge
“Will I be as brave as Jack in the Pirates of the Caribbean? Will it save the world like Altman?” The daughter sent such a question, and then, and distressed to say: “they are men, I am just a girl, why is the captain of the non male?”
The daughter is not only unfair, but also feel the sigh of this. In her little head and wondering why the hero is always a man? Why do women heroes so little? At this time, grandma will break her ideas: the girls should be like the girls, the boys are doing, as long as the girl holding the sub line.
The duty? How familiar words ah, only a short while ago formed a popular at a time, what is the girl’s duty? It is to hold that the so-called gentle as an understanding wife and loving mother, skilled, the rest is not permitted for offbeat, social.
However, with the advent of the era of the only child, the promotion of women’s rights to make a girl’s character has changed, but this does not mean that the future of your daughter is not a good housewife. Just think: a good housewife is a good measure of the important standard of girls do? To my observation: the silly girl is sometimes happy, but know how to control their own advantage of the girls have always been scenery! Of course, to ordinary or scenery, only their own. Like a turtle to live longer, if all day lying on the seabed, the live ten thousand years and what is it? Advantage education is the fundamental reason why the girl can not live, play their own advantages to live?
Looked at her daughter’s face, I said: “some of the work for men, some work for women, as the captain of this work long drifting in the sea, not only to endure loneliness, but also need a certain physical. The man is so strong that most of the men are men. However, there is a female captain now, because the technology in the development, the ship is no longer so much manual work, but also need to work, so the captain appeared. Let’s look at the plane. Is there a lot of women in the plane? Just like the captain of a military parade. This shows that girls in the technology is not a bit better than men, there are men and women who have a hero, which depends on you do not want to do well, how to do good. This will require you to take advantage of girls ”
What advantage does the girl have? The girl in the communication and coordination capacity than boys a big advantage, research shows that women left than men developed left brain, left brain controls language and abstract thinking ability, so the female imagination and language skills than the congenital male, show that women should obviously than men in social communication ability. Although not in the power of women and men to compete, but in the future society, communication and the ability of thinking need more things to deal with it, which will undoubtedly make women better play to advantage.
As a mother, you want to tell your daughter’s own advantages, strengthen the training of the left and right brain development, but not to give her a way of thinking, the woman is the weak. This impression made it will affect the development of her character, she ignored the weak advantage, a problem not to think how to solve, but then, or is a relatively strong dependence, in the course of time is to develop the personality of lady, but was buried. This is why some women destined to be buried in the hearth, some women have become a princess like cinderella.
There are many have just entered junior high school girls have wondered why I become more stupid? Is not really what people say, just a girl in the primary school period performance than boys after good, true to the junior high school than boys?
A problem encountered this problem when I have just entered junior high school, in most of the girls have just entered junior high school, many subjects suppressed, learn a bit difficult, this is actually a very natural phenomenon. Don’t be known as “older boys than girls IQ is high IQ” fallacy by misleading, there is no evidence to show that girls IQ is poor than boys, but boys than girls in the rational thinking on a little better, so there are some girls become tired of the science of mathematics physics and chemistry class but, this does not mean that your IQ is a problem, but the problem of the cultivation of interest. To cultivate their own interests, not to go to the Department, the Department will only make your knowledge is narrow.
At this time she needs to be as a mother of your reasonable guidance, to dispel her on the rumors of the boys IQ high error awareness, establish good enough confidence to deal with the new discipline, the new semester, slowly let her into normal learning orbit. Then I also listened to the mother’s encouragement to dispel the doubts, to make the learning achievement more and more good, a lot of boys do not solve the problem of mathematical physics, I still take it easy.
At that moment, I was thinking: who said that girls are worse than boys? As long as you try, what time will you have the advantage, if only not aggressive, genius will become a fool!

How to concentrate on learning

How to concentrate on learning

How to concentrate on learning
Sometimes, our brains are always confused by the confusing things. In the age of the students, these strange thoughts become more and more intense when the exams come. The more you want to learn, the more you can’t concentrate. But for a long time, it will affect the learning efficiency and learning performance.
There are several reasons why you can’t concentrate on learning:
Learning objective is not clear enough
Learning content is too difficult, learning burden is too heavy, the psychological pressure is too large
The learning content is too easy, you have learned by heart, because of repeated learning tired
Excessive fatigue, the brain has not been fully rest
Regardless of what causes the study when the attention is not focused, as long as you try the following approach, it should be how much will have some effect”:
Zaoshuizaoqi, self decompression
Try to use the day to study, improve the learning efficiency per unit time, not greedy black night, tired muddled and all day can not afford to fight spirit. At the same time, do not look at the test results too much, a hard, a harvest, I believe that as long as they work hard, there will be a good return. In this way, the study can be relaxed and happy, the attention is easy to concentrate.
Clear objectives, with good method
From the big side, we have to realize that today’s efforts to learn is to create a bright tomorrow, to become a useful person to the family. From an early age to say, this year, this semester or even this day, I should be completed what learning tasks. The goal is clear, the study of the driving force is enough, attention is not easy to disperse. It is true that we should pay attention to the use of some of the better ways to train ourselves to focus and improve our learning efficiency:
Relaxation training method. Sit comfortably in a chair or lie on the bed, and convey information to the rest of the body. Start from the left foot, so that the leg muscles taut, and then relax, while suggesting that it rest, and then, from the right foot to the trunk, and then relax from the left and right to the trunk. At this time, then from the trunk to the neck, head, face all relax. Just a few minutes, you will be able to enter a relaxed, peaceful state.
Difficult to moderate law. For those who have already been able to solve the problem not to go over and over again and again to the calculation, to find some of the classic problems to conquer. For the difficulty of the problem, first independent thinking, and then turn to the teachers, students or parents. For not interested in difficulty is relatively large, their first set a good plan, limited time to learn, not lax. Take a “hill” in the study, give yourself a reward, so that the sense of achievement to motivate themselves, so as to focus.
Sense and usage. To mobilize a variety of motor organs to coordinate activities in the cerebral cortex to form a strong center of excitement. Such as the ear to listen to the tape, read the words in the mouth, eyes to see the textbooks, hand on the paper to write the words. So, attention is when not “deserter”.
Exclusion method. First, in the absence of any interference in the case of a period of time to recite a paragraph of 200-400 words to see how much time, and then in the side of the article to back this article, to see how long it takes, until the same time in the two environments.

Pay attention to nonverbal communication with children

Pay attention to nonverbal communication with children

Pay attention to nonverbal communication with children
Mother and child did not use a language, but they are very smooth communication between the parent-child relationship, which will make every mother is very jealous. And this is the magic of smile and nod.
The study by Mei Ruibin Albert of the linguists shows that the communication between people is 93%, and only 7% of them are communicated through the language. Thus, the importance of nonverbal communication in communication.
In all non verbal communication, there are 55% of the body language through facial expression, body posture and gestures, and only 38% is carried out by the tone of the.
Thus, Mei Ruibin Albert proposed a famous communication formula: the total effect of communication =7% +38% of the +55% of the tone of facial expression.
Thus, the non language information in the process of communication with the child is particularly important.
Here, we refer to a concept called “non language communication”. This concept is actually very good understanding, in short, except in the language of communication, which is called non language communication. The point is that the use of appropriate eyes, tone, movements, etc. to communicate with their children. As to give the child a smile, an appreciation of the eyes, a sure hug.
In real life, many mothers often use the language communication, which is often ignored or very little communication with the child to communicate with the child.
Non verbal communication is very important for children, especially in the specific environment, non language communication is often expressed in a specific meaning.
For example, a child in a contest in the first place, I hope to get the approval of the mother, this time, if the mother said, “son, you are awesome, mother because you and proud!” Mother said, the child will be very happy. But if her mother smiled and walked up to the child, give him a strong hug, and tell the child: “son, mother because you are proud of.” In this way, the child will never forget the mother’s appreciation and encouragement.

Seven effective methods of family education

Seven effective methods of family education
One, in family education, the most common way is to talk. The quality of conversation is closely related to the art of conversation.
Talk, is in a democratic and harmonious atmosphere, between parents and children who talk. The time to talk should be appropriate, the topic of conversation should be useful, the child is interested. Talk before, parents should induce children free to the truth to pour out. Then the himself above the child insights as a gift rebate to the child. Through the exchange of ideas between parents and children, so that children receive education and enlightenment. The parents say, children learn to listen, no feedback, is not a genuine exchange. As for parents by talking to the child of sarcastic rebuke, seize a trivial chatter endlessly, offensive to children boring is not desirable.
The art of conversation is mainly reflected in the application of the method of capturing and talking in the time of conversation. In general, both parents and children in a bad mood, especially in a fit of anger, don’t talk; in the story are still not clear, don’t talk; an outsider, especially in the presence of the guests, please do not do critical conversation; at the dinner table, in children before sleeping, also should not be critical of the conversation. The characteristics of family education is “meet a thing is instruct”, so educational opportunity to grasp nimbly, all from the need of education, especially education effect of, the child can be accepted as the norm. Talk there can be a variety of ways, such as casual, investigative, incentive, serious criticism and education etc. can be used. The gossipy, informal time, place, content, a brighter future, relaxed and happy to talk, children are often welcome way of talking.
A successful conversation, like children will be salutary influence of education, educational.
Two, the art of the activities with the children
Family atmosphere is one of the important factors in the implementation of family education, with the children in the activities, is one of the effective ways to create a good family atmosphere.
In life, parents and children are a lot of opportunities to work together.
Go out with the kids. Is the beauty of nature: flowers in spring, the summer cicadas, autumn leaves, winter snow, the child will have endless appeal. Parents pinched season with children on an outing, proportionally to the natural scenery will give children a better reverie and vision, called home long for fun in childhood memories. Common state of mind and language, so that the distance between old and young, all of a sudden disappear, how much of the content of education can be in the present moment.
Go sightseeing with the kids. If you can bring children to the field trip, the children are the most happy. Those places of interest and various exhibitions are worth a visit. Visit, if the parents can do brilliantly explanation, children are the most admired; such as lack of knowledge, forcing parents to turn the pages to find information, it can win the child’s heart.
Shopping with children in Shangjie. Small children like to parents shop, way points people love thing, parents can took the opportunity to introduce a product knowledge and instill a sense of thrifty. Children grow up a little, can be home, for their own shopping, parents accompany when the staff, while buying and talking, while watching the side, while walking along the two generations of mutual security, is a good opportunity for education.
Play with children. After dinner, holidays, a family the development of expertise, blowing, play, sing, chatting, let the family is full of happy atmosphere, and enhance the cohesion of the family and life taste.
Parents and children work together a lot of content and activities is to eliminate the generation gap, harmonious feelings, entertaining activities, let family education in joy, cordial, free activities in.
Three, praise, reward Art
Praise and reward for children is also very learning.
Praise and reward children, you can encourage children to repeat good habits formed; in recognition and reward can stimulate the child’s progress, is conducive to the cultivation of children’s self-esteem and honor, to cultivate children’s ability to self constraint, but also enhance the child’s feeling of non sense, to help parents and children’s emotional deepening.
Election of the children to fulfill the requirements of parents, hope can give praise, reward; children have good behavior, although only signs, but also can give praise, reward; children completed a difficult task, the performance of the brave quality or a certain amount of perseverance, parents praise and reward; the children get the glorious Title, parents should praise and reward.
Praise, reward the way a lot of children should be based on the spirit of the main. For example: praise, praise, nod, smile, intimacy, to achieve the purpose of encouraging the child to progress. Material rewards also want to have, for young children, the necessary material reward is also a good education means. Can give books and clothes and toys, school supplies, etc., but careful with money, but can not let the children of small age, pure heart premature dye copper odor.

Parents want to hold the opportunity to praise and reward. Children excited, come quickly, go quickly, parents have to grasp the child’s psychological pulse, the praise, the reward should be timely, so that their performance can be enhanced, to consolidate. If a belated effort would weaken the incentive effect.
Again, praise or reward or, to be realistic, because this is a child of a kind of evaluation, to let the children in recognition and reward to recognize themselves. Too high, easy to let the child blindly meet; too low, and not easy to achieve the purpose of incentive. In addition, praise, reward, the attitude of parents should be sincere, it is best not to promise in advance, once promised to keep your word; not to the extent of the degree of reward and children bargain.
In recent years, some scholars “to” appreciation education “is called the” universal education “, and said:” to appreciate the child, can be fabricated. ” This argument is open to question, it is not scientific to use a method of education to replace all the means of education.
Four, the art of apologizing to the child
In family life, parents say the wrong thing, do something wrong, even wronged the child is often occur, how to deal with such a problem, also be really tutor of art.
Parents and children in the family should be democratic and equal relationship, parents do something wrong or wronged children, should take the initiative to apologize. This will not affect the credibility of the parents, but will not undermine the dignity of parents; instead, will give the child a mistake to change the example, will make the child sincerely admire their parents’ quality and self-cultivation, and thus more trust their parents, parents will not only reduce the dignity, but will be higher, but also to create a relaxed family, harmonious and democratic atmosphere conducive to the growth of children.
, of course, apologize to the parents, to admit their mistakes, especially to the child to apologize, admit and attitude must be sincere, not perfunctory, not looking for objective reasons, sincerely to seek understanding.
Five, tolerance of Art
Tolerance refers to the children do wrong after, parents with a spacious mind accept the child’s fault, they did not radical language rap, accountability has not pursued, this will make the child’s heart by deep remorse, and remorse, guilt of his past into, calm thinking, promote the in parents’ generosity to repent.
Give two examples to illustrate:
When Lenin was 8 years old, she went to her aunt’s house with her mother. He accidentally broke a vase, nobody saw, to investigate the cause of the problem when he didn’t admit fear. Lenin naughty is playing in the careful aunt guessed, but she remained silent, waiting for his son and the people in the germination of shame. After three months, the mother lovingly stroked the sons head, want to have words, unexpectedly Lenin burst into tears told the vase. Mother comfort her son, and tolerance of him. The mother knows that the son is in the moral struggle of the heart, the beauty of the quality of the United States, the quality of the victory.
India Sancho Gandhi, a teenager into a bad habit of smoking, and to steal money to buy cigarettes. He felt pain and remorse, the deterioration process in detail to write in a notebook, and plucked up the courage to hand it to the father, eager to get his father’s teachings and punishment. The father did not blame him, but for a long time staring at Gandhi, two lines of tears rolling down. The father of tolerance so that Gandhi has been a great shock, since then, Gandhi repent thoroughly of one’s misdeeds on the right path.
Obviously, tolerance is a very good education means. Application, it is recommended to pay attention to the following points:
The premise of the implementation of tolerance education, must be a child of their own mistakes have been recognized, and feel guilty, and the use of tolerance can be used.
Parents are ready to forgive the child’s fault, it should be from the expression, tone, tone of the child’s parents are very sad to make mistakes, and believe that they can repent. Such as the mother of Lenin, Lenin, Gandhi’s father’s tears, they are excellent education. Parents are not desirable indifferent attitude, make children feel a sense of relief, no pressure, lack of correct determination.
Tolerance, is in order to let the children form a good habit and moral character, and this habit and moral character only in practice can produce and consolidate. The parents do not because the child a thing did not do a good job, don’t let the children hands-on involvement in the, to allow the child to do things, but also to the child a tolerance.
Tolerance, not equal to laissez faire, abdicated. Tolerance is a positive education, the journey is the performance of the parents of dereliction of duty.

Six, criticism of Art
Criticism is a common means in family education, parents criticized the child to the child bad thoughts, behavior, quality give negative evaluation, and give warning, causing their guilt, pain and regret, from the shortcomings and mistakes in lessons, don’t repeat them.
To be fair and reasonable. There is a bit of a mistake, it is not wrong to criticize the child; the criticism is wrong today, but also with the previous mistakes, a point of the wrong, always when the very wrong to criticize, these estimates are not appropriate. Inspirational www.lz13.cn so parents meet the child’s shortcomings, to understand the plot, ascertain the reason, proper estimation of degree of error, not under unclear circumstances, on the child unwarranted accusations, arbitrary superclass, scapegoating, disorderly hazard analysis. If so, not only to achieve the purpose of education, it will cause the child’s reverse psychology, is not conducive to solving the problem.
In the way of criticism should be the first to the right, and then the wrong; the first recognition of the past, and then pointed out today; and even the first self criticism, and then criticize the child. Criticize the child can be serious, even can be tough, but it is not rude, it does not mean sarcasm, ridicule. Otherwise it will hurt the child’s self-esteem, is bound to cause the emotional opposition.
We often say “number ten, not as long as the award.” In the education of children, in order to positive incentives, but not to deny the criticism of the mistakes, shortcomings and mistakes, and even punish. Criticism can be used, but not too much, too much abuse, not to criticize as parents of education means. In addition, criticism, punishment is a negative, a kind of pressure, but also can become an incentive, a power. As parents, we must face the problem of the child, trying to control their own emotional impulse, and enhance the awareness of education, pay attention to the art of criticism.
Seven, set an example of Art
We often say that the power of example is infinite. Family education in the words and deeds, so that the content of education, personality, so that the child is infected with the image of education, and enhance the attractiveness and effectiveness of education, encourage children to imitate, learn noble moral behavior, self correcting their bad behavior.
The younger the child’s age, the greater the infection of the model. As a child by example, the impression will be very deep, and even will be unforgettable.
Parents are children’s most important learning model. Parents are the child of a person of exemplary virtue, the words and deeds of their parents is the most intuitive teaching materials for children to learn, parents set a good example of the demonstration can not only enhance reasoning credibility and infectious, but also like a spring moisten things to play the same monasteries, a subtle role. Therefore, parents should always behave yourself, with your good behavior first, make a model for the children’s moral cultivation.
Of course, in the family education, the role of the model is not spontaneous, parents need to give guidance. How should parents choose for their children and set an example for their children? By telling stories, watching television, reading and other ways to promote and establish a revolutionary leader, hero model, the history of the outstanding characters and literary works of the positive image of the positive impact of education, children, so that they become a model for the child. Because in their body to gather the Chinese nation’s outstanding moral character, should become the child learn to be a person’s criterion. To make the child from the deep education, parents must first of all these characters have a profound understanding of the state of mind, there is a deep feeling to influence, influence, guide children.
Parents should also pay attention to the children in the same age, the students in the class, for the children to find a learning model, which can increase the sense of learning. These people are children of the same age partners, a comparison of similar life experiences, companion has shown good thoughts, good moral character, good style, children are more familiar with, easy to understand, accept, more can inspire the vigor of learning. But parents remember, can not be designed to pick up the advantages of students, strengths and weaknesses of their children, compared to the opportunity to take the opportunity to irony, ridicule child. If parents often say: “you look at the children, you look at you, you make me sad!” This way of education can only play a negative role, so that children have a negative. The right approach is to seize the opportunity, inspired by self – learning, enhance self-confidence, willing to learn.

Parents should set a good example for their children.

Parents should set a good example for their children.

Parents should set a good example for their children.
Family education, as the name implies, refers to the education of parents in the family life, from the parents to their children. A few days ago, the Ministry of Education issued a formal document to strengthen family education work to propose a package of guidance, the importance of family education.
Family education problem has been concerned by people since ancient times. It is the starting point and basic point of education. It begins with the birth of a child, a good family education is a necessary condition for training high quality talents.
A few days ago, the Ministry of Education issued a formal document to strengthen family education work to propose a package of guidance, let us take a look at the parents in family education responsibility.
Education children
Is the legal responsibility of parents or other guardians
To fulfill the duties of family education according to law
Parents should be timely understand the children of different ages and growth characteristics, truly teach students in accordance with their aptitude, and constantly improve the family education targeted;
Always adhere to the children, respect for children’s reasonable needs and personality, the creation of suitable for children to grow up with the necessary conditions and life situation, and strive to grasp the law of family education;
Enhance their own quality and ability, and actively play a role model, and the school, the community to form a joint force to avoid the lack of education and less care, education and improper, and effectively enhance the effectiveness of family education.
Not “tiger mother”, “wolf dad”
Strictly follow the child’s growth
Preschool children’s parents should provide their children with healthy, rich life and active environment, develop their children’s health, good living habits and moral behavior, so that they can be happy in the childhood life to get useful in the development of physical and mental experience.
Primary school students’ parents want to supervise their children to adhere to physical exercise, the growth of self-protection knowledge and basic self-help skills, to encourage participation in labor, develop good habits and learning habits, and guide children to learn to Thanksgiving parents, honest, honest work.
Middle school students’ parents want to carry out gender education, media literacy education, to cultivate children’s positive learning attitude, with the school to reduce the burden on children with overweight, guiding children to learn to choose. School students, parents of negative growth and the elimination of interest, not blindly, classes, not the “tiger mother”, “wolf dad”.
Parents have to recognize the importance of family education.
We many parents believe that children, only concerned about the body and children with food and clothing problems, as for children’s learning and education for the school and teacher to can.
2014 Zhejiang province is concerned about the next generation of advanced personal Yang Renzhong believe that this view is actually wrong. Same teacher in the same class, but some students have good grades, some students have to be worse, the key lies in children usually have different family education, but many parents do not realize this.
Yang Renzhong since 1998 he was vice president of Yuhuan Chumen Town Central Primary school play, they serve as Truman town long – shut – in committee member and secretary, retired in 2013 after entering the Truman Zhen Guan Working Committee Office, from is related to the Committee of the Secretary General in his work. At the same time, he also served as Yuhuan County closes Working Committee “Oro” propaganda team members, legal help cult members etc. Multiple post education work, for family education has rich experience. In his view, the focus of family education lies in the importance of parents to understand the importance of family education.
Family is the people’s attachment to the place, which is the earliest accept influence of education and the place, is to accept the education and influence the longest place, with parents, words and deeds, always sneak into the child’s mind, shape a child’s character, virtue. Therefore, parents are children’s first teachers, family education in children’s growth process, both the sound development of morality, intelligence, or on the body healthy growth plays an important special role, which is can’t be substituted by any education.
Parents should set an example for their children
Parents good moral character and behavior habits, positive and optimistic, energetic and enterprising attitude towards life, and cultural quality is the premise of their children’s education. Because children when they are young and in the family space activities for the longest time, opportunities for interaction, so the influence of parents of children most strongly. Parents are in the influence character by environment influence every word and action of children, child education.
Former Soviet educator Makarenko in parents read a book said: “how do you dress, how talking to others, how to talk about other people, how do you say joy and the unhappiness, how to treat friends and enemies, how to laugh, how to read newspaper, all of these are of great significance to children.” Yang Renzhong believes that any parents in order to educate the next generation, we must first educate and shape themselves, to establish a good example for the children.
But some parents in the US, because consciousness lack of understanding, in front of the children do not pay attention to their own behavior, give the child some negative effects, resulting in children who have gone astray.
Yang Renzhong tells the story of a many years ago. A village secretary’s son, because in the school does not listen to the teacher’s discipline, the teacher will leave the students after class, and asked him to write guarantee. The child’s parents did not work, to the school scene, also threatened to “clean up” the teacher. The school repeatedly with the parents explain, and do the ideological work of the parents, but this name in the village Shuoyibuer, grumpy CunZhiShu dad did not listen. Five years later, the junior high school children haven’t graduated into the society, make some dubious friends, robbery in the community, was sentenced to five years’ imprisonment.
“Parents should have a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, dedication, love of labor and learning outside, should also decency, personally, words and deeds, not a set of surface, behind the set, in a kind of outside, at home is also a way.” Yang Renzhong said that if parents do poorly, the couple quarrel, the elders are not respected, then how can we teach children to live in peace, teach children to respect their elders, Kong Zi said: “the body is, do not make the line, its body is not, although not from”. Therefore, the education of children, start from their own.
Create a good family atmosphere
Create a good family tradition, to create a good family atmosphere, is extremely important for the growth of children. In a sense, family education is the education of family environment. Yang Renzhong reminded that some of the negative impact of family environment, parents should be avoided.
Such as some parents at home reading and playing unhealthy even yellow books and video tapes; some parents all day playing mahjong gambling, but also lead to the child contracted the bad habit of gambling, opening the Pandora’s box; and the family parents divorced, children deprived of family warmth.
Yang Renzhong met before a case, a junior high school students’ father addicted to gambling, often at home opened gambling, a friend something home looking for him, he left the table to the son said: “come on, you come to the father’s generation for a while.” This generation, let his son also lost on gambling.
And one of the parents tell their children learn. Otherwise, next is difficult to in the community based, which know children plausibly to said: “you said it yourself, more knowledge, more poor, silly like Dr, poor like a professor, why I should be so hard to read?” Can be seen that the parents usually at home with people complaining, the child would have to listen to in the ear, remember in the heart, plus the child’s ability to distinguish between non ability, this negative misleading in the minds of children.
“Thus the importance of family atmosphere, and to create a good tradition, a very important point is to have a harmonious interpersonal relationship between all members of the family.” Yang Renzhong said that the family members of the mutual respect, understanding, trust and care is one of the essential factors in the formation of family atmosphere. Family is a safe haven for life, is the cradle of the child’s growth. Harmonious interpersonal relationships among family members can make the child a good mood, optimistic attitude and positive outlook on life. The tension of family relationships, it will cause the child’s psychological pressure, resulting in negative pessimism, the family lost faith, serious and even lead to the child’s mental illness.
In one study, 81% of the batterer is not abused in childhood is their father mother beat. Due to family discord, contradiction of tired and run away from home, tempting, looking for new spiritual sustenance, and then go astray and finally leads to crime are numerous examples.
Yang Renzhong believes that everyone’s family environment are different, some wealthy families, some families in poverty, but it does not determine the pros and cons of a family atmosphere. Some impoverished family, but family harmony, noble aspiration, the spirit of the rich; some wealthy families, but spiritual emptiness, the conversation is vulgar, family feud.
So optimize family environment, create a good family tradition, depending on family members create a good interpersonal relationship, but also as possible: concerned about neighbors, concerned about national affairs, concerned about the public welfare undertakings, zunlaoaiyou, cleaning up the environment. Everyone pick the burden of the family. And try to give the children to create a more relaxed, comfortable, quiet learning environment.
As a parent, as far as possible out of time, to understand the children’s views of learning, life and all kinds of problems, any potential guidance, correct the child’s mistakes. And play with the children as much as possible. Let the children take their parents as their intimate friend, and not a day of issue orders left and right “commander”.

Parents’ behavior is a role model for children.

Parents' behavior is a role model for children.

Parents’ behavior is a role model for children.
Family education is not a revolution, can get into overnight, but is not a dinner party, available hand. Family education requires parents to slow down, think about what you want to give the child, what can give the child, how to grow with the child. Can not throw the other half, the couple can not be absent, but also have their own life, after all, in the family relationship, the couple is the core.
Both father and mother have to be on the basis of their own, try to use their own love and good, and is more easy to accept the child, to lead the child from the cognitive, explore the world, to grow into a family social citizen.
To slow down, to share the growth; to slow down, know that the child has their own physiological maturity, the rhythm is more useful and effective; slow in understanding the starting line is not others, but your own set, starting slow is to save some strength.
In family education, parents are most in need of Education — including the child’s parents and grandparents, grandma grandpa. As the most loving and caring for children, they are more and more attention to the education of their children, but their educational ideas are not the same. The current education system is still unshakable, because our parents’ education idea and the relatively poor level!
Are you and I are running high speed, but also can think of childhood dream?
Education should be a fan of your way, the child’s role model
What kind of role does the child need?
Parents do their own right?
How to give a good example to the environment?
In a children’s party recorded live in part of the draw, sitting next to me the child seat number have been drawn in, and his mother are urging him up to accept the award, and said “anyway also no one to check”. For education on children’s concerns, I didn’t get up to let the children go out to go to, intended to remind parents not to force children go the wrong way. However, the mother has led the child to go out on the other side and came on stage to accept the award – the prize is a beautiful bag!
Their home is the lack of that bag it is this child is to face one of the two sides of the parents on the one hand I hope that children can grow into a decent and good people, on the other hand, in order to “small”, “small convenience”, to induce a “negative energy”, passed to the child. And in this encouragement. It is easy for children to will originally do not belong to their own for the true, the good and the beautiful growth problems gradually immobilized, buried seeds of falseness, ugliness and evil.
I leafed through a lot of family education books, all kinds of method of family education, I think the most important is “the demonstration model, which is obtained from the nature of pure natural education, is an irrefutable truth.

Love girls, but not all girls become “diaoman princess”

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Love girls, but not all girls become “diaoman princess”

Now “girls just want to have a rich” has become many parents of the girl’s sons and daughters, however, they always feel that girl nature cowardly, parents should pet, and some are even fall into the “beautiful trap”. One is over protection. Don’t move, be careful with you!. Don’t cut it yourself! Be careful with the knife!. In the parents favor, girls become cowardly, protection left their parents at a loss. Two is too much love. The children want to do what, what to buy, what to buy what, his parents live frugally, but on the child’s request is hundred asks hundred. The doting parents, the girls have become spoiled, arrogant; slightly frustrated, lost his temper, not aloud to contradict their parents, was to slam the door, anger, and did not eat. Parents are not, that would not listen, suffered. Some parents together, to tell their own difficulties:
My daughter had no fear of me, every time she made a mistake. I say, she will argue with me to use lame arguments and perverted logic. You say hit her, a little girl, Jiao drops, I still love dearly; do not hit, I am also angry. It is in a dilemma!.
“That boy is not good, but we are more difficult to control the girl home. You say always, she has one hundred sentences to refute you.
“Sometimes I earnestly give her reason, she not only did not listen, and that I do not understand the children. You said I wasn’t angry.
Such a little girl is too much. How to let the little girl become a lovely princess, how to make “diaoman princess. The following approach is no longer diaoman, parents try.
1, accept the child’s mood
When the girl met not liking things temper tantrums, even quarrel, parents try to don’t add fuel to the fire, to first accept the child’s mood, listening to her talk. For unruly, conceit, not good at controlling their emotions and behavior of girls, but also in her temper, not accused nor comfort, let her cry, give her to gas withdrawal on the parents the opportunity. When parents accept the child’s emotions, it means to tell the child, your feelings are justified, you have this power. This can make children excited mood soon calm down, waiting for her to calm down after a gas — also will disappear. When parents calmly with her conversation, the kids will listen into my parents say the words, will to oneself just of the impulse, will be determined to correct.
2 to the girl’s excessive request to say “no”
Girl rich. Is that parents in the conditions permit under the premise as far as possible to give girls material abundance, to cultivate their elegant taste and grace and manners. But does not mean that can be accommodated to the unreasonable demands on the children. At the appropriate time, the parents of the girls too much to say “no”, but will receive good results.
Nini’s parents are working class, but to make her happy, they asked for her daughter to meet. One day, Nini to pull my mother to buy brand-name shoes. Originally, their class several classmates bought a new Nike shoes, Nini is also very like. Mom hesitated for a moment, she knew, famous brand new shoes have at least 3000 yuan of above, so small children began to wear brand-name, what to do in the future? She gently refused her daughter’s request. Nini although not happy, but a few days just fine.
In real life, we often see that some of the less affluent families, parents can not buy clothes, but the children were famous brand. So in addition to the Church of the child’s vanity, can not achieve the purpose of education, the results will be counterproductive. Rich, is not simply a matter of material, more is the cultivation of the quality of girls, so that they are rich in spirit. If a girl places a great demand on material, parents should say. No !
3 make a return to “cruel” parents

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For wayward children, sometimes to persuade not, parents may wish to come to the heart.
James is a doctor of psychology. One day, he and some friends passing through the park’s amusement area. Saw a little girl sitting on a merry go round, her father and mother is almost in the request of her down, but no matter what adults say, the little girl refused to come down. A friend of Holmes said: you are a psychologist, see if you have any way to let the children down. Dr. James went to the girl next to the ear, said a few words to the girl child, erhuamoyue a trojan. The girl’s parents admire, and surprised, to consult the doctor. What did you say to the child?.
“What is not,” said Dr. keep calm. I just whispered to her, “if you don’t come down, I’ll give you a good beating at once. Do you want to try?”
This story gives us an important inspiration, the cultivation of children can not blindly follow her, if the parents can tolerate her bad habits, the child’s growth is extremely unfavorable. So, when the cruel cruel, but indulge unruly girls.
Care for children, the protection of children is the responsibility of parents, but the education of children in a variety of ways. Should sometimes gentle, sometimes cruel to be severely, the key is to grasp the “degree. Only with a broad and strict economy can we cultivate our little girls into a lovely little princess.