The girl’s healthy growth don’t need endless blame

The girl's healthy growth don't need endless blame1

The girl’s healthy growth don’t need endless blame
In the course of the child’s growth, it is inevitable that this or that kind of wrong behavior. These errors are often due to the child’s age is small, considering the problem is not comprehensive or do not pay attention to the cause of the majority is not expected to commit a parent or elders. Of course, some rebellious girl will be interested in using the behavior and parents against wrong. Even so, parents should not be strict with the girls, too much blame not only can not let the children to correct mistakes, often will make the child more serious resentment and resentment.
Experts believe that too much blame will not bring any help to the child. When parents blame their children, they have a good idea of the hearts of the original will be destroyed, so that children do not know what to do, and then make more mistakes, bring parents more blame. This vicious cycle continues, easy for children to frustration, to further the development of self denial, to Ebara encountered a panic will be difficult in the growth and retreat. What parents should do if they are not conducive to their growth?
1 control emotions, learn to encourage children
When the child has the wrong behavior does not recognize or unwilling to accept criticism, parents often can not suppress the anger, the instinct to blame the child.
There is such a problem in a questionnaire. When a child makes a mistake, what do you say to your child?. 53% of the parents answered. What are you doing, what?.. You see who is, people can not make mistakes!.
As we can see, some parents can not tolerate the child’s wrong behavior, these parents lack the place is mainly to have no consideration of the child’s feelings. They think, to remind the child to see other people’s achievements, to stimulate the child’s progress. But for strong self-esteem girls, often get the opposite of what one wants. Parents blame, more easily hurt the child’s self-esteem. If parents take a positive attitude, they will have a positive effect.
One day, the girl’s father saw her daughter in front of a sprinkling of milk in a daze. When he saw the next cup of milk, he understood what was going on. He did not blame the child, but went to the child, comfort the child said. Baby grow up, really good, want to take a cup of milk.. Then, my mother came to him. Sui Sui peace (pieces), annual growth. Don’t be afraid, you’ll get it next time.
The young parents not only did not blame the child’s behavior, but also to encourage the child, parents this positive attitude will let the children have confidence, will take the next time. Like this is good at using the psychological characteristics of the child, the child’s progress and efforts to give encouragement, it means that the child has accumulated a positive emotion, so that children feel good.
2 don’t too much to limit the behavior of the child
The child’s behavior has a lot of parents is “fear” word pawn, and activities for children limit child to wear with friends go out to play, parents fear their children tumble, fear of being bullied children to move a small chair, afraid of children encounter a child’s foot climb up onto the table to from a higher place downwards jump, no matter there is no danger, parents will shengsejuli be stopped. Some parents not only for children pipe head pin, too much interference, and the child’s behavior slightly substandard adults, unwarranted accusations. Studies have shown that a any action by excessively limit the children, is the most easy to produce dependence and cowardly psychological, when the child’s curiosity and courage is a pressed down time, the child will think he is stupid, what not to do. This will directly lead to the lack of independent spirit of the child, resulting in inferiority complex.
3 that your criticism must be used with caution

The girl's healthy growth don't need endless blame
We used to say that children are good, but now some parents think that the child is good for others. They can’t see the advantages of their children, see is child’s shortcomings and deficiencies, only know the children accused, so they always have a sense of satisfaction, in the children’s education lack of patience, but do not know how to help children overcome the disadvantages, so that some of the children of broken broken jar fell. We grow old by deserting our ideas. So, parents blamed the criticism of the child must be used with caution.
Parents should learn how to think about the benefits of children, thanks to the child to bring you happiness and happiness, so that parents will not always think of their children’s shortcomings, will adjust their mentality, less criticism and criticism of children, more to give them appreciation and encouragement. With the encouragement of their parents, the child will get a power, set up the confidence, on the road of growth, and constantly correct mistakes, overcome difficulties, and finally get a wonderful life.
Some people say. Accused as an agent of the “drug anthelmintic except disease. , these drugs. Only when necessary with caution. Inappropriate blame for child abandonment, in good faith for the kids to encourage confidence and courage. In the course of the child’s growth, parents less blame, more encouragement, can better help children grow healthily.

Let each child grow up healthy


Let each child grow up healthy
British writer Thackeray once said, “the behavior of sowing, harvesting habits, planting habits, harvest character, sowing character, harvest destiny.” Way out the importance of cultivating good behavior habits. Tao Xingzhi, a thinker in our country, once said, “the most important habits of life are likely to be successful before the age of six”. Reveals the necessity of the cultivation of good behavior habits should be early start.
Now children, most of them are only children, is the home of the sun, family of the child’s life take care of meticulously, give the child to eat the best, wearing the best, help children do everything that needs to be done, the maximum to meet the child’s never in front of the children said loudly: “no”. Grandparents, parents too much spoiling, causing children to self as the center, poor ability to adapt, self willed, fear and other issues. From the beginning teacher home visits and questionnaire survey found that small most of the children in the home mouth to eat, clothes to hand, attaches great importance to the many parents of children’s cognitive education, intellectual development, the cultivation of children’s behavior is to “small children” for reason or acting on their behalf not corrected, in early childhood development exist cognitive ability and behavior ability is not harmonious, not synchronous. Many young children in the performance of the program is also very confident, but once let them go to complete a simple task, it is at a loss. Such as: the beginning of the school, the general parents most concerned about things: “my family’s children to eat?” “What did you eat today?” “All the dishes are eaten today?”…… Questions like this. Some parents even said: “my kids like to eat what, other do not eat anything on with him,” parents of this kind of idea prompted children formed eat picky, picky eaters, the partial eclipse, eat bad eating habits of playing, etc., with the passage of time, resulting in a child body nutrient ratios disorders, caused by various signs of malnutrition, affecting the healthy growth of children. Resulting in the beginning, a small part of children with food helpless, just going to sit back and wait for, because these children even eating utensils will not take, not to mention their own independent dining, is also not to say there is a good habit. And the children have not yet formed dining, going to the toilet, listening, playing toys, etc. the basic behavior habits, if we allow this situation to develop, children’s behavior problems will more and more, children’s bad development will be inevitable, will have adverse effects on the rest of your life. This school year I from the age characteristics, psychological development characteristics, formulate corresponding measures to be implemented, to help children form a good living habits. After a school year, they felt a lot of progress. Now make a summary.
First, according to the actual situation of children in the class, to determine the good stage of training objectives.
Children’s good health habits of life, including all aspects of content. At the same time, the children good habits formation is a process of education for a long time, we should according to the class of children, designated a each stage to focus on training target, the eyebrows beard grabbed. Small opening at the beginning, the focus on: cultivate children’s meals after they wash their hands, correct use handkerchief, tableware, not picky eaters and other aspects, children to adapt to the collective life after adding content: the correct method of washing, eating chewing food thoroughly, not talking to keep clean, break the clothes in the right seat, not noisy, do not disturb others, learning sorting toys and books and, after according to the actual situation of children requirements and master degree gradually increased in and pay attention to the characteristics of individual children in education and teaching, vary from person to person, so that has a number of heart, and education in order to have targeted, in order to achieve good results. In addition, small children’s age, for many life habits of the right or not no accurate concept. For children’s bad behavior, teachers can not simply blame, stop, and should be properly explained, the model, so that the formation of young children is a positive concept, there is a model to follow. Such as classes, I have a lot of children in the park at the beginning, take the chair with only one hand dragging the chair go, do not know how to gently, gently and often tilted chair or collide with each other. To this end, I had a conversation with a young child before lunch. Told the children to take a small chair when the chair will be very “pain”, but also easy to damage, and I gave the child a demonstration, and explain how to take the chair, how to gently put the chair, and then, please do me. The children imitate my hands gently pick up the chair, carefully put back seat. From the chairs about kids were out of sight, “bang bang Baba” hit the sound of chairs without, if who occasionally forget, in violation of the requirements, will be immediately other little friends reminded him to immediately correct.